Parents Are Just Kids Who Grew Up: Why Our Moms and Dads Need Connection Too

Growing up, we look at our parents as the ultimate authority figures—the ones with all the answers, the curfews, and the rules. But at some point, we realize they’re just people who had to grow up and take on the role of “mom” or “dad.” Behind every sacrifice and every “because I said so” moment is a person who’s still learning, still wanting to feel connected, and yes, still figuring things out just like the rest of us. It turns out our parents aren’t all-knowing; they’re just kids who grew up, navigating life with hopes, dreams, and the need for connection.

Think about it: our parents made countless sacrifices for us, often putting their own lives on hold so we could build ours. They didn’t stop wanting things for themselves. They still crave fun and connection. Maybe your dad still lights up when he gets a chance to play, whether it’s kicking a ball around or tinkering with a project. Or maybe your mom still longs to feel like the “it” girl she once was, dancing and laughing, not just as “mom” but as someone you’d hang out with if you met her today. They’ve taken on this endless responsibility of caregiving, and sometimes all they need is a little reminder that they’re still seen, heard, and appreciated.

And let’s not forget the guardians who step into parental roles with love and devotion, raising us with patience and kindness. They, too, deserve connection and recognition. These are the people who show up for us, even when life asks them to be more than they ever thought they’d have to be. So here’s a gentle nudge: reach out to your parents or guardians. Ask them how they’re doing, what they love, what makes them feel alive. Remember, they’re just people trying to navigate life while carrying the weight of parenthood. Empathize, laugh, and make them feel seen—because, deep down, they’re just kids who had to grow up too.

Xoxo,
A.D